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Refinement

June 29, 2011 by Aliesha

There’s a common saying that goes something like this: You’re either in a trial, you just went through a trial, or you’re heading into a trial.

We just can’t get around it… trials, difficulties, and hardships are a part of life! These things are no fun at all – illness, job loss, unmet expectations, family difficulties, financial troubles, personal struggles, ministry challenges, etc. – but they are what God uses to shape our character into His likeness and provide a witness for Himself to the world.

Yesterday I was reading some verses in 1 Peter that really brought a lot of encouragement to my heart.  I hope they will bless you as well if you are going through a trial right now!

In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith–more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire–may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 

For this is a gracious thing, when, mindful of God, one endures sorrows while suffering unjustly. For what credit is it if, when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in His steps. He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in His mouth. When He was reviled, He did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but continued entrusting Himself to Him who judges justly.

Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.


Now who is there to harm you if you are zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God’s will, than for doing evil.


Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice, insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when His glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name.


Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.


And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.


1 Peter 1:6-7; 2:19-23; 3:9; 3:13-17; 4:12-16; 4:19; 5:10, emphasis added

Filed Under: ministry, struggles

Have a Hard Shell, but a Soft Heart

January 7, 2011 by Aliesha

Being a pastor’s wife has its challenges, but so does being a military wife, a politician’s wife, a teacher’s wife, or a doctor’s wife.  With every man’s work or ministry, there are things that are difficult on the wife and family, whether it be the hours he works, the amount of time he spends away from home, or the criticism he receives. 

That said, know that the following post is not an attempt to say that being a pastor’s wife is harder than any of the other professions I mentioned above.  This is just what I know, and I write from that experience.

Few things are harder than hearing my husband criticized.  I would rather someone tell me to my face that they hate my guts than to hear in passing that they are upset with my husband.  (I know this is not a unique struggle to pastor’s wives.)

Recently, the Lord has, I believe, placed on my heart a phrase that He would have me live out.  As I have reflected upon how He would have me live my life as a pastor’s wife, I believe I am to have “a hard shell, but a soft heart.”

Allow me to explain.  Having a hard shell allows me to deflect the darts of criticism, anger, gossip, dissension and ignore the ways the enemy (Satan, not people) is trying to bring me down.  When I have a soft shell, I get hurt easily, feel wounded, and am bogged-down by the negative things people say about me or my husband.

Having a soft heart allows me to continue to love the people to whom we are called to minister, and to exude grace to those around me.  When I have a hard heart, I become bitter, feel neglected, and am focused on ways to “get back at” people who have hurt me.

To my shame, I get these turned around all the time.  I am a sinner saved by grace and I desire to walk victoriously over sin.  There are days and even season where I stumble, yet the Lord is always patient with me.

My prayer continues to be that I have a hard shell, but a soft heart.

Filed Under: introspection, marriage, ministry, struggles, thoughts

Not Down, but Through

January 6, 2011 by Aliesha

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I read this poem in Streams in the Desert this morning, and I thought it would encourage you all as it did me!

When you pass through the waters,
   Deep the waves may be and cold,
But Jehovah is our refuge,
   And His promise is our hold;
For the Lord Himself has said it,
   He, the faithful God and true:
“When you come to the waters
   You will not go down, BUT THROUGH.”

Seas of sorrow, seas of trial,
   Bitter anguish, fiercest pain,
Rolling surges of temptation
   Sweeping over heart and brain–
They will never overflow us
   For we know His Word is true;
All His waves and all His billows
   He will lead us safely THROUGH.

Threatening breakers of destruction,
   Doubt’s insidious undertow,
Will not sink us, will not drag us
   Out to ocean depths of woe;
For His promise will sustain us,
   Praise the Lord, whose Word is true!
We will not go down, or under,
   For He says, “You will pass THROUGH.”

{ Annie Johnson Flint }

“When you pass through the waters… they will not sweep over you” (Isaiah 43:2).

Filed Under: struggles, worth repeating

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