– Pray regularly for him and for his ministry.
– Make your home a place of rest and refuge. Ask about his day when he comes home instead of immediately rushing to tell about yours. Respect him if he doesn’t want to talk about “church stuff” all the time at home.
– Allow your home to be used for hospitality ministry. Be willing to have families over and host events in your home!
– Leave for church on time (and by “on time,” I mean early). If you’re not good at this, keep working on it. It will really bless your husband.
– Prepare on Saturday night for Sunday mornings. Lay out your/your children’s clothes, pack diaper bags, find sippy cups/Bibles, and make sure your husband’s clothes are clean/ironed.
– Help him where he is weak. My husband is not an administrator, so I try to help him with administrative/detail-oriented tasks when I can.
– Read books on being a pastor’s wife, and books on spiritual growth in general. Continue learning and growing in things of the Lord.
– Do not gossip. Nothing will destroy a church faster than a pastor’s wife who gossips.
– Make your ministry to your husband (and children, if you have them) primary, and your ministry to your church secondary. No one else can be your husband’s wife or your children’s mother, but someone else can teach Sunday School, direct the choir, or lead the women’s ministry.
– Don’t commit him or yourself to activities/responsibilities without first talking with him. This is just common courtesy – it’s how you want to be treated, isn’t it?
– Give positive feedback on his sermons/lessons. He’s bound to get criticism from other people in the church; he needs to know that you believe in him.
– Spend quality time together on a regular basis. Be his best friend!
What would you add to this list?
